What if you believed you were already enough?

In both my own life and in the therapy room, one of the most common—and deeply painful—beliefs I come across is this: “I’m not good enough.” No matter what we do, what we achieve, how much we give or prove, that inner voice insists: it’s still not enough.

This belief has shaped me in more ways than I’d like to admit. It’s kept me small. It’s kept me in unhealthy relationships, in jobs that drained me, in mental spaces that dimmed my light. It’s robbed me of joy, of risk, of trying. Because if I fail—if I make a mistake—then maybe everyone else will see it too: that I’m not enough. It’s kept me disconnected from my body, caught in cycles of self-doubt, and unable to see the version of me that others so clearly do.

Like all limiting beliefs, this one will run the show until we say, enough is enough.

And it doesn’t just live in the mind—it’s in the nervous system too. Every time I’ve used EMDR to work through something, guess which core belief pops up? Yep. “I’m not good enough.” It’s sneaky. It’s persistent. But I’ve also learned it’s not permanent.

Healing came from doing the work. But what really changed everything was combining therapy with something deeper—my sense of spirituality. That quiet connection to something greater. That reminder that I, like every living thing, am part of something vast and sacred.

Cultures around the world have always known this: you are already enough. Like the trees, the flowers, the creatures moving gently through the wild—you don’t have to earn worthiness. You are worthiness. We are of nature, and nature doesn’t ask for proof.

Does the belief still show up? Oh, absolutely. It tries to hijack my golf swing. My body image. My confidence. My business. It sneaks in with freeze, flight, and fear. But now, I see it. I don’t let it drive. I can have those days—when nothing fits, my skin breaks out, my to-do list is longer than my energy—and still know I’m enough.

And so are you.

If you’re ready to start believing it—really believing it, in your bones—let’s talk. EMDR can help. I’d be honoured to walk with you as you remember who you really are.